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Did you ever have a paper returned in English class with a red mark through a phrase and the notation “avoid clichés?” Imagine this red line when you are talking with someone who is grieving.

A cliché is a phrase that once had meaning but has been overused and now has lost its meaning. We use clichés in our daily language as a way of making conversation or coding information in a short form.

Grief clichés abound. “I know just how you feel.” “Life goes on.” “She is in a better place.” “Everything happens for a reason.” “Time heals all wounds.” There are dozens more.

Some clichés communicate an expectation for grief to come to an end. Some suggest that grievers should repress their feelings of loss. Other clichés minimize the mourner’s feelings by assigning a larger theological meaning to the death.

All grief clichés are a “fix it” approach to the pain of loss. Come to the mourner in a spirit of condolence, whose Latin root means “to suffer together.” Sharing in sadness is what is needed, not a cliché.

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Getting Grief Right

by Dr. Patrick O'Malley

A masterpiece that will touch your heart and soul with healing powers. • A compassionate, wise, and practical guide • A must read for anyone who is grieving the loss of a loved one.


Grief Therapist

Dr. Patrick O’Malley is a psychotherapist in Fort Worth, Texas, who specializes in grief counseling. For 40 years, he has counseled individuals, couples and families
in his private practice.


Getting Grief Right

by Dr. Patrick O'Malley

By the time Mary came to see me, six months after losing her daughter to sudden infant death syndrome, she had hired and fired two other therapists. She was trying to get her grief right...

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